Be Fierce, Stay Fierce

The informal definition of Fierce, as defined by Google, is being fashionable or attractive in a bold or striking way.

Now the word has so many different definitions, but people have found a way to turn a word usually meaning aggressive, as in a predator, into a word that empowers people to be their most confident selves.

The only time I ever heard someone use the word fierce is when they were describing a model walking down a runway or a model posing for the next issue of a magazine. I never actually heard the word otherwise.

Nowadays, people use it to describe almost everything, but to me it’s an attitude. It says I am her, I am confident, and I walk my own path.

As a young girl, I was a tomboy who loved sneakers and pants and didn’t care much for dresses. I loved sports and hanging with the boys and I didn’t find I cared much for some of the things girls spoke about. I was a little more aggressive. I just didn’t feel like I fit in anywhere. Thankfully I was pretty goofy and tended to use this as a coping mechanism, so others wouldn’t see how things really were with me. I have to say, it worked for many years.

I hated that I was aggressive, that my voice was deeper than other girls,  and  that I didn’t seem to have similar interests as other girls.

As I got older, I realized that it was a good thing that I didn’t fit in. I realized that it didn’t matter whether I fit in. I needed to create my own avenue and fiercely walk that path.

My voice, which can be loud and boisterous, is not a voice that is meant to be kept quiet. My voice is strong, deep, and fierce. I have a lot to say and God gave me a powerful voice to say it.

I am aggressive. A word that has such a negative connotation, but to me it means fiercely going for what I want and believing that I deserve every great thing that comes my way. It is believing that I am worth it and not being afraid to say it.

I don’t need to sit quietly and act like a lady….whatever that means. I am so grateful to grow up in a time where there are “aggressive” women all around being entrepreneurs and activists and actively working to make a difference in the world. These are the kind of women I look up to. These are the kind of women I strive to be like everyday.

Fierce to me means paving your own way and not waiting for anyone else to do so or to discover your potential. It’s realizing it for yourself and deciding to do something about it. We are all unique and let’s face it, not everyone is going to like us or care much about us, but that’s okay. Being your true, authentic self is being fierce.